Category Archives: Girl Stuff

“Miserable” by Lit

I am going to cross my music writing and sports writing worlds.
This evening, my homie and one time guest writer Tommy B., has the honor of serving as press at a Chicago White Sox game for the outlet we both write at. When the game wasn’t going so well, He tweeted the following:

And I must admit “My Own Worst Enemy” by Lit is a guilty pleasure, but one of my favorite songs of Lit and one of my favorite music videos of all time is “Miserable” by Lit.

There is some very late 90s/early aughts-ness going on in this video, but I believe Pam Anderson and everything about her in this video stands the test of time. The swimsuit. The stripper heels. The hair and makeup. Maneater theme. It is a classic.

I actually really like this song too. The lead singer and songwriter, A. Jay Popoff, said it could be about addiction. To me it kind of reminds me of the failure of a relationship where one party is a nightmare or maybe a natural degradation over time– a running of course– where resent me boils.

A good video for a now 20-22 year old jam.

“Our Hearts Are Wrong” by Jessica Lea Mayfield

Jessica Lea Mayfield is so, so underrated. She had a little popularity spike in the early ’10s and has made some more music including a collaboration with Seth Avett of the The Avett Brothers.

Sadly, I have only seen her live (despite so many opportunities to do so previously) at a tiny street festival in Lincoln Park in Chicago. It was a little over two years ago now, and she opened for Foxygen. The crowd at her set was criminally tiny, and oddly enough, I recognized a friend from Nashville that was in her band and got to say hello. It is a very small world.

“Our Hearts Are Wrong” is probably her most popular song, and for a good reason. Jessica Lea Mayfield’s voice has a smokey and comforting quality to it. The style reminds me of country singers from 70s and earlier. The lyrics of the song itself create a lot of tension that is backed up by confidence and certainty.

Enjoy this one on repeat.



“IUD” by Okay Kaya

I am bonkers about this song, and the artist Okay Kaya, lately.

I showed it to some friends, and one of them said “It sounds haunting.” I guess maybe a little. However, it’s a song about someone wanting a partner to come with them to get an IUD in. It’s very clever and a bit bawdy (not really to me because I don’t think contraception is a bawdy topic), but to me, the song is very romantic.


She sounds just as wonderful live, and you can enjoy people chuckling in the background on the clever parts.


“Time’s Been Wreckless” by Marika Hackman

I wanted to drop by for a quick post about a great song I heard today, compliments of my Spotify “Discover Weekly” list.

My presence is questionable here lately because of mainly grad school, but also baseball (because I know it’s time is likely limited, I’ve really wanted to soak the games in), professional work, work on myself, plants, and time with my loved ones. I have so many posts in draft mode that I want to finish once I’m done with school.

Also, I have been having an appreciation for indie women and queer and queer adjacent folks (and any overlap there) lately– mostly of the millennial set. So expect more pop ups like that in the interim.

One of these women is Marika Hackman. I am loving all of the things about her. Also, this article is delightful. So please, enjoy her song “Time’s Been Reckless”. 🙂 I am also adding three new blog categories: “Queer Stuff”, “Girl Stuff”, and “POC Stuff”.